Why you fear away from abandonment?

• Your needs were neglected/dismissed as a child.
• There was a lack of healthy communication growing up that left you feeling ignored, confused, forgotten, crazy, misunderstood, invalidated.
• You have deep-seated trust issues due to the above and below stated.
• There were inconsistent words and actions from your parents/guardians and a lack of follow-through due to their lack of boundaries and lack of honesty with themselves and others.
• You had a lack of or no support mentally, emotionally, or physically and thus no guidance or example of how to provide it, validate, trust, accept & love yourself.
• There were role reversals in your family and you had to mature at a young age.
• Your needs want, thoughts & feelings were judged, shamed, criticized or your were punished for having them.

Neglect, broken trust, and lack of emotional support in childhood can create deep fears of being left alone. Inconsistent parenting and judgment of feelings make it hard to trust and feel secure. Understanding these fears helps in healing and building healthy relationships.